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We are all vulnerable creatures. That is our world is so incredibly complex, hardly anyone is in a position to cover all the areas there to know, so we rely on others to help us cope with the gaps. Often times, we don’t think of the collective, but in the only one we can possibly rely on, …   Read More

We are all vulnerable creatures. That is our world is so incredibly complex, hardly anyone is in a position to cover all the areas there to know, so we rely on others to help us cope with the gaps. Often times, we don’t think of the collective, but in the only one we can possibly rely on, if you are believer in a higher power, that is God. And so it is printed in the currency of the world’s most powerful country. Trust is important, it is the one thing we rely on a daily basis, we need to trust if we are to get things done and move forward. Although everyone has a unique way and differentiated manner to trust, there are some things that should be considered. Of course psychology can bring us a lot of insights into this, as well as other disciplines. The following are some insights I found:

Honesty is king

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Honesty or truthfulness in one-to-one interactions tends to be more valuable to us.

This point here is probably a given, we trust who or what we believe is telling the truth. Sometimes, however, we may have enough evidence to believe that these people or companies we trust have lied before and we trust them anyways. This seems to be specially the case in larger scale, with a good example being the trust we deposit in politicians. In smaller scale, that is in our everyday one-to-one interactions,  we tend to trust those who we know first-hand have a proven track record of being truthful to us.

[tweet_box]According to the model, when it comes to trust, we should look back to the first moments when you cried and relied on your mother to bring food or care for you in the right moment.[/tweet_box]

Nature vs. nurture

How we trust seems to develop an earlier age.
How we trust seems to develop at an earlier age.

Psychologists always bring our behaviours and tendencies back from our childhood whenever there is something to explore. Erik Erikson, the famed psychologist widely known  for coining the phrase “Psychological Stages” mentions the importance of our earliest relationships to become our second birthday. According to the model, when it comes to trust, we should look back to the first moments when you cried and relied on your mother to bring food or care for you in the right moment. On the other hand, if your mother left you crying, such instances, according to Erikson would leave growing up into becoming a more suspicious person.

 In order to trust our partners, we expect full compliance from that someone to have no room to make a mistake.

Relationships

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Trust is essential in relationships, even polygamous relationships, trust among the participants is sacred.

The big ‘T’ in relationships, trust is essential for all kinds of relationships, the closest relationships such as the ones of a boyfriend/girlfriend, partner or spouse are ones which requires even so much more of our trust, but trust is just one of the fuels that relationships require to exist. In order to trust our partners, we expect full compliance from that someone to have no room to make a mistake. If we are talking about faithfulness, trust in faithfulness means there are no affairs, perhaps not even the thought of an affair. [tweet_box]It seems that we care less about the companies we make purchases from, perhaps because due to the bystander effect, the idea is if something is bad, ‘someone’ should have already done something about it. Or if something is so so bad, the government would have already not allowed it, because it would be illegal.[/tweet_box]

Products and services

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We tend to be more relaxed when it comes to things that really matter to us. Food is one in which we tend to put pleasure ahead of health.

We live day and out, putting our trusts on brands and services, because a lot of the times these are vital to us. Perhaps one of those situations that are tricky is where do we get out food from. After, we are what we eat, so those brands we trust to feed us, in reality we are are depositing a great deal of our trust to that company providing us with food. It does seem to be less important, more often than not, although it probably shouldn’t be. It seems that we care less about the companies we make purchases from, perhaps because due to the bystander effect, the idea is if something is bad, ‘someone’ should have already done something about it. Or if something is so so bad, the government would have already not allowed it, because it would be illegal.   Whatever the reasons on how we build trust, one thing is universal for all is that our way to trust tends to be unique, although it may vary according to how we were raised, our genes, our personal life’s experiences, which are unique to us. We are unique in that our experiences have shaped us, so therefore how we trust is really more of a personal process.

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